Caregiving is a journey, and it's okay to feel everything from joy to frustration.

Are you caring for someone with dementia? If so, you’ve probably experienced a range of emotions—some you might not feel comfortable sharing.

Let's talk about those tough feelings that many caregivers face but often don’t talk about.

1. Resentment

You may feel resentment as you navigate the challenges of caregiving. Maybe you’re caring for a parent or spouse, and it feels like your life’s plans have been put on hold. It's common to mourn the life you imagined for yourself and feel trapped in the role of a caregiver. These feelings are valid and normal.

2. Guilt

Guilt is another emotion that frequently comes up for caregivers. You may feel like you should be able to handle everything but find that it’s impossible. Perhaps physical limitations prevent you from giving the care you wish you could provide. Remember, recognizing your limitations and asking for help doesn’t make you a bad caregiver—it makes you a human one.

3. Anger

Anger can appear in many forms. Maybe you feel frustrated with the situation or angry that family members aren’t helping out as much as they should. Or perhaps the caregiving tasks themselves—bathing, feeding, or changing your loved one—feel overwhelming. It’s okay to acknowledge this anger. It doesn’t make you less loving; it just means you're feeling the weight of caregiving.

4. Exhaustion

Feeling exhausted is normal. Caregiving is physically and emotionally demanding. It’s important to set boundaries and take time for yourself, even if it’s just for a quiet cup of coffee. Recharging your batteries will allow you to continue being there for your loved one.

What can you do?

The first step is acknowledging these feelings. You’re not alone, and it’s important to connect with others who understand what you’re going through. Join a support group, journal your thoughts, or simply talk to a friend. Also, don’t be afraid to ask for help—whether it's from family members or professional caregivers.

Caregiving is a journey, and it's okay to feel everything from joy to frustration. By understanding and normalizing these emotions, you can find peace and the support you need.

Want to be part of a bigger community?

Join our private Facebook community for dementia caregivers; it's a kind, supportive space with others just like you. It's free to join, just follow this link (opens in a new window).

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